Finding, Settling,Dumping The Asshats Of Your Life or The Guide to Finding A Relationship That Will Work

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Disclaimer:
I feel an adapt need to say this before i even start posting. This may offend some people...i am sorry it couldn't be helped, not that i set out to piss people off(usually) but i have a deep concern that has been on my mind the past few days its a trend and it seems to be growing in my life, among friends and those closest to me and i can hold back no longer i am sorry..but this had to be discussed

The Issue at hand:

Today readers let us examine relationships....Over the past few days neigh weeks i have seen countless people speak of there being dumped...lack of love...how love is evil....and the fact maybe they derserve what they get in that dept..here is an excerpt from a few comments via my 400 some odd friends on fb


"So i was watching that move "He's Not Into You and maybe they're right we learn if a guys a jerk the more he likes us. No Wonder I am attracted to Assholes"

"Love Will be my weapon from the first guy, i kissed to the last guy who dumped me, if i have to suffer i will make others suffer"

"I just have to ignore his drinking"

"Yes we are both co-dependent"

"He doesn't hit me THAT often"

"Maybe i dream to much, to think things can and will workout"

and the kicker

"I deserve to be alone"

ok...why is this such an issue you ask..well its simple really. I Think that i am sick of seeing people hurt over and over again by their own foolish choices. Clearly if it is not working and you have the capacity to change it then do so...because i for 1 cannot stress that there is a no pity party from me policy.

As humans i think crave the need for companionship that we just HAVE TO be with somebody and not really see them for who they are...sure they maybe cute...but what does it say of their character..2months, 6months down the line...and are they really RIGHT?

I myself am not blameless without no fault...my most current "Douchebag" was someone who in my mind i knew it was never going to work, immaturity, aside he just wasn't experienced but batshit crazy... i had no feelings for this person but gave him 2 month that i wish to hell i could get back...ughhhh! why did i do this? i knew the result...

After so much time being single i just felt like i had to have someone there good or bad in short i settled...


Settling is something i think 90% of all people do....fear of dying alone, not getting what you really want, the idea its never going to come..these are all reasons that we lower expectations and truly end up below what we deserve.It seems silly to me that we as humans do this, i mean, anything worth having should not and cannot be easy simply stated if it starts too easy eventually the cracks will shine through but by then they will be well on their way to breaking and shattering. At almost 29 i cannot grasp the idea of settling for less then what i deserve...a man who truly loves cares for me and more important a friend to me...it sounds silly but i never understand why my friends go through these silly break ups six or seven times...its like they like the abuse to one another, it some how thrives them.


Another point is i firmly think...We overlook the good that may be standing right there in front of us waiting to take an oppertunity...most times we don't go for it because a) we are blind to it b) it might ruin a friendship or c) the illusion you hold of that person will be shattered. But i have to say why not? Why not go for the attainble in front of you? I know if someone really knows me i would make them the first on my list...

A glimpse in my mind: Someone who knows me, who is part of my soul and life can deal with all that i am and know what to expect...i need someone who knows me as well as i or maybe knows me BETTER than myself...


And they are out their folks.....those people who are in your daily life, who see the drama and bullshit you may go through with your current asshat everyday....and maybe their scared because it takes a lot to be brave to state what one feels...



My final point on this matter: I think we date assholes most of the time...its true we spend a week, two, hell a couple years and we think that they are the best thing ever to happen to us, all the while they are dragging us down...or destroying us as our friends and loved ones watch(this where that friend that is probably the best thing for you comes in)knowing that the guy or girl is no good but we don't listen, cause in our minds they are just perfect(for now)and when we get our come-uppence we wonder....why did this go wrong...we were soooo in love..ehh wrong answer...there was no WE, YOU may have been in love or thought you were but that other person wasn't or they'd still be by your side..through it all


the main thing here folks...is that we have to stop and realize that time flies by most quickly and if we overlook the people that truly matter for ones that are less then reputable then we are totally missing out in the world, in love...

so i urge you today...if something isn't working with whoever you are with DITCH THEM...leave them be and never look back, its not worth it


Even if you think it's working but are not sure...listen to advice we don't realize the asshats we date but those that care just might see something we don't...LISTEN LISTEN...AGAIN...LISTEN

Also lastly open your eyes...so its not going great for you with the toxic relationship that doesn't mean you should give up....take time to see, maybe the person meant for you was always their the whole time..silently watching and waiting and listening to the rhythm of your heart praying one day you might feel the same....


Till next post